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The 1999 Annual NARTH Conference
On November 12 and 13, NARTH held its annual conference in Salt Lake City,
Utah, and this year there were no protesters to mar the event. The meeting
was hosted by Evergreen International, a support group for men and women
transitioning out of homosexuality. Approximately eighty individuals
attended, most of whom were psychotherapists.
On the first morning, Charles Socarides, M.D. and Joseph Nicolosi, Ph.D.
described the complementary concepts of "reparative" versus
"reconstructive" therapy. Both agreed that new techniques must be developed
in order to shorten the therapeutic process. Reparative therapy takes about
two years, while reconstructive (psychoanalytic) therapy commonly takes
much longer. Dr. Nicolosi described a new therapeutic area he considers
very important--"grief work," which investigates the deep, sometimes
agonizing wounds inflicted when the child grew up in a narcissistic family
relationship that required the surrender of his or her authentic identity
as male or female.
Next, Jeffrey Robinson, Ph.D. presented a particularly lively and
engrossing discussion on the meaning of change for the homosexual client.
During lunch, Utah Psychological Association past president Brent Scharman,
Ph.D. spoke about his new awareness that effective treatment is available.
Dr. Scharman said he had once thought homosexuality to be biologically
rooted and immutable, but through information provided by NARTH Scientific
Advisory Board member A. Dean Byrd, Ph.D., he has come to see an important
new perspective of the issue.
Another luncheon speaker was Rabbi Sam Rosenberg, L.C.S.W., who told NARTH
members about the new--and first of its kind--group he has formed to
support Jewish men and women transitioning out of homosexuality.
Psychoanalyst Loretta Loeb, M.D., related her experience answering ethics
charges by a state mental-health association. Dr. Loeb had made a public
statement which implied that homosexuality was a treatable condition.
(After a lawyer successfully defended her right to express this opinion,
and NARTH offered scientific support in her defense, the association agreed
to drop the charges.) During the luncheon, Dr. Loeb also received the 1999
Sigmund Freud award.
In the afternoon the audience heard form Richard Cohen, M.A., David
Matheson, M.A., and Dan Gray, L.C.S.W., who described techniques they use
in their practices. Dan Gray is Clinical Director of a Sexual Trauma and
Discovery Program; David Matheson is in private practice and co-author of a
book for homosexual strugglers; and Richard Cohen is an author and
psychotherapist who lectures across the country on homosexuality.
Then Dr. Lynn Wardle, a prominent Brigham Young University law professor,
delivered a compelling discussion of legal debates regarding same-sex
marriage and reparative therapy, and described gay-activist attempts to
prohibit sexual-reorientation treatment.
"As one of the few legal experts who has been closely following these legal
developments," said NARTH's Joseph Nicolosi, "Dr. Wardle brilliantly
dissected the arguments that seek to prohibit reparative therapy and allow
same-sex marriage. NARTH members must publish papers to advocate reparative
therapy, he said, because such publications are taken very seriously by the
courts--a fact well known by gay activists, but neglected by those of us
on the other side, who know such therapy is effective and valuable."
Unless therapists from NARTH's perspective speak up to object to
restrictions on the client's right to choose, Dr. Wardle emphasized, they
could eventually lose the right to conduct such therapy.
On the second day of the conference, a group of ex-gay men and ex-lesbians
offered sometimes emotionally wrenching testimony of childhood pain and
alienation. Some of the women reported families made chaotic by
alcoholism, and others described mothers and fathers who did not affirm
their daughters' authentic feminine identities--either through emotional
neglect, or the requirement that they fashion their feminine identities in
a way that reflected their mothers' narcissistic needs. For one woman,
this meant the expectation that she express no opinions and develop no
autonomous identity. In adulthood, she still held onto an intense and
primal need for feminine nurturance, and therefore felt powerfully drawn to
women, even though the relationships were emotionally dependent and
destructive.
Another woman said she felt her mother's expectation to surrender her
emotional and spontaneous self to take on a stylized form of femininity
which was her mother's false construct for her. She rejected this false
construct as "not me," but along with it, also rejected the feminine nature
which would have been natural to her--one rooted in earthiness,
emotionality and spontaneity. After many years in the lesbian community,
she came to see that "something in my soul was lost"--that she carried a
deep "feminine wound." She is now married and a mother.
All the women said that when they made the decision to come out of
lesbianism, they finally experienced themselves as beginning to live
genuinely.
The men offered similarly emotional testimonies, typically describing the
lifelong alienation from their fathers and male peers, followed by driven,
addictive lifestyles of promiscuity and unhappiness. As Richard Cohen
said, "The gay lifestyle is anything but gay."
Ex-gay presenter Mike Haley of Focus on the Family described his seventeen
years in a gay lifestyle, followed by a profound change which allowed him
to leave the lifestyle and marry. He said that for men who have spent many
years in gay relationships, change should bring a deep-seated shift in self
perception, a leap in self-insight, and same-sex emotional needs will be
more fully met--but there may always be some sexual responsiveness from
those earlier years which cannot be simply "erased."
Psychotherapist Richard Cohen, M.A. offered moving personal testimony
describing his childhood enmeshment with his mother, alienation from his
father and male peers, and the trauma of molestation by an uncle, which
sent him the message, "If you want affection from males, you must have sex
with them." After some years in a gay lifestyle, he eventually discovered
that "The man I was looking for was not 'out there'--he was me."
In a discussion of his therapeutic concepts and techniques, Mr. Cohen
provided a fast-paced, easy-to-understand discussion supplemented with
audio-visual aids and psychodrama in a format which he currently offers at
training workshops around the country.
Many of the conference attendees agreed that this year's meeting was
NARTH's best to date, as it featured speakers whose lively, sometimes
off-the-cuff presentations captured audience attention and permitted a high
level of audience interaction.
Updated: 28 February 2008
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